I write about my self improvement discussions here.

If there is a way to make a bad situation worse, it is to have a bad attitude about it.  Against Bitterness I used to have an attitude of "Why do I keep doing this?" "I dislike myself for doing this", and so on. When repeated failure is not handled, and the one common factor is you, bad things can tend to happen. While it may be cathartic for a short period, it sets a bad example in the long-term. You grow to expect the worst for yourself, to expect you alone will guarantee the powerlessness of your best desires. The only response is never useful, only more and more poisonous feeling poured on it. Ultimately, one ends up becoming a shell of a man, using all of his energy to wail and moan of the past's tragedies (assuming they are; in my case, it looks doubly ridiculous considering I'm 19), blind to the obvious answer and yet addicted to his short-term relief despite what harm it does him. (And the short-term relief is no greater evil in self-improvement!) An...